Do you see what I see?
At some point you will have a day of reckoning within yourself. For me it was the day that I had walked away from the self denial. The day that I realized that “I” was fat. Up until then, I never really allowed myself to look at me from the perspective of size and weight. I focused my attention on how I carried myself. I knew that I was a “fuller figured” woman. And that I had always been identified as the cute funny friend who was “pretty”, but…
I remember going out to a club with a friend who had been struck dumb by the amount of attention that I had been receiving that night. She had actually had the audacity to come up to me right there in the club after a young man had walked off and said… “I don’t understand how you are getting so much attention”? Of course, that only caused me to show her how a big girl really does it, but in the back of my mind I was in disbelief and quite offended.
Pause—Ok! When a man sees a woman, he is generally looking at more than her size. While there is the “preferential” side of things. People are attracted to good vibes, good energy and self confidence. So, if you are “confident” and fearless you can do anything that anyone else can do. You may not be at your ideal size or weight at the moment, but that’s no reason not to work it baby girl!
Now, I don’t remember how long it took but eventually I came to realize that the only way I’d be able to motivate myself to change would be to visualize myself in the body that I wanted to live in. Giving up the complacency that I had found in my 320 pound body. And that meant that I could no longer be in self denial. I had to ask myself some very real questions and answer those questions.
1. Are you fat?
2. Is this healthy?
3. Do you like shopping? Do you often walk into the department store and wish that you didn’t have to walk straight to the back of the store?
4. Are you ready for change?
5. What are you willing to do in order to make the change and to be successful at it?
Don’t feel bad about self reflection. Just because you realize that you need to make some lifestyle changes; changes that will help you live a longer more productive life, doesn’t mean that you stop living in your process. The weight loss that you will gain is icing on the cake. The bigger picture is a healthier happier you.
Here are a few tips and things to remember that will help you keep yourself motivated.
Be consistent in your efforts.
Visualize yourself living in the body that you wish to be in. (I did this by posting pictures of sister’s who were living in my ideal body) That’s not weird it’s motivating, because if she can do it so can you… Post my picture if you like.
Be confident in your journey… You can do this. You can do all things through Christ/your creator and a healthy support system. If you don’t have an accountability partner, I will be that for you. Email or Facebook me.
Be committed… It’s your body which makes it your choice. No one knows your body better than you. Spend time really paying attention to what your body is saying to you.
Take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror, be honest and let’s create a plan of action.
Peace & Blessings